Martin Luther King, Jr.: If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.
A friend of mine called me yesterday from the hospital, where she had been for a day and a half. She was diagnosed with a very serious infection which will lead to further complications. The team that’s been assigned to her will make sure she schedules follow-up doctor visits, classes, medication refills, and all the care that she needs. My friend lives alone and is 75 miles north of where I live. So I can’t easily help her with appointments, but I’m going to do what I can to ensure that she has the right health apps on her phone to remind her of what to do next.
Another friend of mine told me today that she doesn’t worry often, but when she does…it’s about her health. I totally agree. Being out-of-work now means I don’t have to worry about things like “did I do that project correctly?” or “what will the traffic be like this morning?” Now, I don’t worry much at all. Sure, I woke up with a headache yesterday and didn’t want to get out of bed. After a few more hours of sleep and four Tylenol later, I was fine. I didn’t spend my day worrying about having a brain tumor. (Believe me, I know someone who would!) I just got up and went about my business.
When I was first off work in the summer, I worried about everything. I probably worried enough for every resident in my city. After taking more than a dozen classes on mindfulness, stress and health, and chair yoga, I learned that worrying for everyone and about everyone does me no good. And it is all about me, right?
That’s not to say I’m not going to worry about my friend in the hospital. She’s scheduled to help me celebrate my birthday in Las Vegas in two weeks (it’s her birthday too!) and, as of now, her doctor tells her she’ll be able to travel. But there’s only so much I can do. I will be her cheerleader and her shoulder to lean on, but I will also be there to encourage her to keep moving forward.