Margaret B. Moss: When one forgives, two are freed.
Wikipedia states that forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. Do you hold a grudge? Do you forgive easily?
I rarely publicly speak about politics. Those close to me know who I’m voting for and I’m probably not knowledgeable enough to get into a political debate about policy or theory. In preparing for today’s blog, I googled “forgiveness” and a blurb about Melania Trump was high on the results page. After the release of Mr. Trump’s 2005 “locker room” comments, Mrs. Trump asked for forgiveness for her husband. She stated that his comments were “unacceptable and offensive” and stated “he has the heart and mind of a leader.” But does an apology automatically award you forgiveness? Forgiveness is up to the person/people/entity that was wronged. Does Mr. Trump deserve forgiveness for these comments? How about other comments he has made in the past? Do we just let it go? The nation’s citizens will decide this on Election Day.
Research finds that the best-received apologies would include an expression of regret, an explanation of what went wrong, an acknowledgment of responsibility, and a request for forgiveness. But humans are flawed. It’s normal. We screw up. We need to embrace that fact and use it as motivation to apologize to others rather than stubbornly refusing to own up to our responsibility. (Source: tabletmag.com)
Do I hold a grudge? Do I forgive easily? Some recent situations didn’t go as I had planned and I didn’t always receive the apology or get the endings that I wanted or expected. But I chose to forgive and move on. I won’t forget, and those situations will guide me in the future. Forgiveness does equal freedom.