The older you get you realize, more and more, there truly are two sides to every story…and the version you heard was probably the least accurate. Whether you want to believe that or not.
Do you read Twitter? Do you get your news from Facebook? Or watch the 6:00 or 11:00 news to find out what’s happening?
I’ve discussed this before. I follow certain news organizations, writers and pundits on Twitter. Most of us, I’m sure, read or follow news outlets that align with our beliefs and ideals. Some will follow Fox News, some will follow MSNBC, some will follow the Daily Stormer (the news source for the neo-Nazi movement). I’m not judging you if you follow the news from an organization other than what I follow, but we mustn’t get into a pissing match about which source is better. You do you.
I believe most of the news I read and hear is unbiased. Discussion will be held about both sides of an argument and I make up my mind as to which side to agree with.
I don’t want to get political and discuss who I think is right and who is wrong. But when our president, for instance, calls out both sides of the protests in Charlottesville over the weekend, I must disagree. I keep repeating the phrase in my mind: “There are three sides to every argument: yours, mine, and the truth.”
An argument with a spouse or coworker is usually not earth-altering, and both sides likely will agree to disagree at the end of the day. But when the president calls both the protesters and the counter-protesters wrong for being at the rally this past Saturday, I call bullshit. One side showed up with weapons, torches, slogans, and ready-to-fight and take-no-prisoner attitudes. The other side showed up to try and drown out the rhetoric and try to make everyone get along. Early in the day, I saw photos of the counter-protesters singing hymns.
I know, rose-colored-glasses aren’t weapons against cars and torches, but the “nice” side appears to have been trying to metaphorically disarm the protesters. It obviously didn’t work and there were lives lost and people and businesses were irreparably damaged.
Damage on both sides, to be sure. Pictures of the protesters were online in minutes and those who were employed soon found themselves without a job. Employers don’t want to be known as the company employing neo-Nazis. People who live in Charlottesville just want their city back and now it will forever be known as the location of the latest neo-Nazi rally. I’m not sure if tourism was a Charlottesville staple, but I think now people will be visiting the place where the car mowed down an innocent woman. Who wants their city to be famous for that?
Remember: You don’t win an argument simply by being right and proving that you are. You only really win if you sway others to want to consider your point of view and see the merits of it. That happens through being civil, through being a good listener, and through being friendly and kind.